Life has its ups and downs, but that doesn’t mean that your love for yourself should. With a solid foundation, your love for yourself should never waver. Of course, it’s easier said than done. But like anything else, loving yourself requires practice and reinforcement. It’s like learning how to ride a bike. Each time you fall, you get back up and give it another go until you’re stable and consistent. The same applies here.
Implement the following tips into your life to learn how to love yourself unconditionally despite the obstacles that life hits you with.
Go easy on yourself
Don’t focus on everything you did wrong throughout the day. Think about your little triumphs instead. So what if you didn’t go grocery shopping and ordered in instead. You got out of bed today. You may have washed your face, or even made your bed. It’s easy to focus on the small things that you think you’re doing wrong — or beat yourself up for not being perfect — but don’t forget to highlight and remember the things you are doing right.
Be your own cheerleader, make a list of the things you’ve accomplished
Have something concrete that you can look back on to remind yourself of all the things you’ve achieved. When you’re going through the hustle and bustle of life it’s easy to lose sight of the things you’re doing right. They slip through the cracks and get lost in all your negative thoughts. Make a list of things you get done day to day and refer to them for a boost when you feel down in the dumps.
Take care of yourself, seriously
Bubble baths and lighting a candle are just little ways to accomplish this. Order your favorite food or cook your favorite meal. Throw on a TV show from your childhood that makes you feel warm when you watch it. Do things that make your heart feel joy and watch how your love for yourself begins to build when you’re reminded of the little things that you enjoy that make you yourself.
Clean up your life
The way your surroundings appear have a lot to do with how you feel mentally. This does not only extend to your bedroom. Go on an unfollowing spree on social media. Distance yourself from people who make you feel less than and end toxic friendships. Asserting what you will or will not put up with and what you allow into your space will help strengthen your love for yourself.
Give yourself the same care and understanding you give to others
We are harder on ourselves than we are on anyone else. Extend to yourself the same understanding that you extend to others. Let your mistakes be just that — mistakes. Everyone makes them, including you. So don’t hold on to them, and love yourself instead.
Life can get tough — and when it does, you’ll have the right tools in your arsenal. Rather than turn to self-blame, immerse yourself in unending self-love with these tips.
Franca is the Editor-in-Chief of Beyond Archetype, a website intended to defy odds, inspire, and promote endless dreaming. Franca received her Bachelor of Arts in English from Montclair State University in 2019. She is currently in the process of obtaining a Master of Arts in the same field. When Franca isn't writing, she's actively explaining her family and friends' zodiac charts to them, and seeking out her next tarot card reading.